Acknowledgements
A brief tour through people, circumstances, and situations that have contributed to my spiritual development.
The aim here is to acknowledge influences in a certain dimension, not be an autobiography. Timelines with different perspectives, such as making money, intimate relationships, and physical fitness, would have minimal or no overlap with this timeline.
Timeline of Influence
1970-1984: Statesboro, Georgia — I lived in the rural south for 14 years. Shooting guns, playing football, riding my bike around a small town by myself, and fighting until someone gave up, just for fun. All these established a ground in physical action.
1976-1984: Conservative Judaism — We often hosted services for the small Jewish community in our town. My favorite holiday was Passover, with the intellectual puzzle of how to address four different types of children, the hiding of the afikomen, and the ultra-violence of the plagues. Judaism was my first introduction to formal ethical frameworks
1984: Boston Latin School — Reading the classics such as Julius Caesar in the original Latin, or Seneca, introduced me to classic Roman moral philosophy. Engaging in a contrasting ethical framework led to the depth that comes when embracing multiple incoherent systems. At this time, my family was poor enough to be on welfare, but this rarely had an impact.
1987: David Kelly — David is the long-time director of the Hampshire College Summer Studies in Math. It was in the two summers there that I discovered the creative potential inherent in all formal system.
1988: Robert Fripp — I was really into playing rock guitar. Robert Fripp is a British musician who had a very strong Gurdjieff influence and wrote pamphlets on Discipline, which I sent off for via mail. I took a seminar with him in Manhattan, was introduced to the Alexander technique, and became (for a useful few decades) discipline-pilled.
1989: Ashok Gangadean — Ashok taught Hindu and Buddhist philosophy. A scholarly introduction to Nagarjuna and Advaita Vedanta.
1990: Drinker House — Living in the primary party house of the college had its own lessons, having to do with intoxication and dancing and late nights and lighting farts on fire. This could be said to be a gateway to Tantra.
1991: Bryn Mawr College — I lived as a year as one of 40 men and 1200 women on campus. Thank you, The Feminine.
1992-1995: Penn Engineering — Engineering was a demand to master complex formal systems, and make stuff work.
1993: Kathy Acker: Kathy Acker’s cut-up surrealist shock-the-bourgeoise-ism portrayed a possibility that I engaged with seriously.
1994: Klaus Krippendorf: Klaus introduced me to Cybernetics, in particular in the biological and social realms, a view of interacting organism and environment as a gestalt.
1995-2008: Adi Da — Adi Da (aka, Bubba Free John, Da Free John) was an incredible spirit-transmitter. When I first moved into community, I slept in the back of the bookstore. Adi Da emphasized study of the great tradition, and I studied across all spiritual traditions, and meditated in an energetic and expansive manner. There is a tome worth of experience here. (I have placed photos of the Basket of Tolerance table of contents below. This book has never been published, and I see that the institution that followed after his death has scrubbed the web of it. It is a shame: the “Adi Da” found on the internet is largely a post-death institutional creation.) I came to live in his community, by the Mountain of Attention sanctuary. Every time I sat with him, particles of being would be re-arranged.
1999: The Tradition of Werner Erhard — Being introduced to this tradition was an exploration of operationalizing Heidegger. I am particularly fond of his using his Integrity and Leadership summaries as liturgy.
2001: David Allen — I encountered his work on initial release, and had the pleasure of a seminar with him. Taught “mind like water” as practical, everyday practice. My inbox is still zeroed weekly, after more than two decades.
2002-2012: W. A. Mathieu — I studied piano with Allaudin. He had a long history with improvised music and wrote a lot of books about the intersection of listening and spirituality. Best pith advice: “Feel the room”.
2003: Scott Sonnon — Introduced me to many breathing and energy practices of Russian origin, which were neither European nor Asian.
2004: Manfred Clynes — I had studied Manfred’s work on and off for a decade. He was a cyberneticist of emotion. I discovered that he lived nearby to me, and took to visiting him.
2005-2009: Harbin Hot Springs & Human Awareness Institute — Back then, the Human Awareness Institute was the epitome of late 60’s exploration. The essence was learning to participate in free activity, asking for exactly what you want and freely accepting, modifying, and rejecting possibilities. “Free Activity” is probably a more extreme sense of “Free” than you are imagining.
2006-2021: BATS (Bay Area Theater Sports) — Performing long-form narrative improv requires allowing yourself to be moved by the circumstance, in cooperation with others, dwelling deeply in interest for others and the situation.
2006-Present: Lydia Becker — Lydia comes from a tradition of Reichian Breathwork that is very physical and intimate. An exploration in unclogging energy.
2007: Bruce Di Marsico — Bruce’s taught the path of desire. His teachings can be summarized as “Be Happy, and Do What You Want”. The order is important: he emphasized deconstructing any “reasons” you had for not being OK right in this moment, and on that basis, having total self-trust in desire. This is the best summary essay I’ve seen on his teachings.
2007-Present: Antonia Kao — I married her.
2008-Present: Anja Kao Nielsen — It’s been my pleasure to be her father.
2009-2012: Carey Wolfe — Carey lived on the streets by choice, and was very fond of crack. I would bring him offerings of grape-flavored vodka, and we would sit an chill all night, while his toothless girlfriend Dawn danced to a beatbox. He presented a radical view of freedom. One year, the police arrested him and I now not where he is now.
2010-Present: Taking Children Seriously — Engaging with this approach to children has been a great practice in blessing other’s freedom.
2014: The Tradition of Marie Kondo — She presented an entry into intimacy with the lived environment. My house is a living organism, also.
2017-Present: Rin'dzin Pamo — Rin’dzin, also known as Charlie Awbery, has been my one of my primary teachers in contemporary Dzogchen. Always a pleasure to share company.
2021-Present: Keith Dowman — I'd read Keith’s work in Adi Da’s community. I started engaging with retreats under his guidance, the most monumental which has been an extended Khorde Rushen retreat, alone, naked in the woods, playing out patterns unto release. He focuses on a different group of Dzogchen practices than Rin’dzin does.
The Eternal Conversation
Lineage is an eternal conversation. Each of us has opportunities to enter many lineages, devote ourselves to those lineages we love the most, and create our inevitable variation that both continues and modifies the lineage. I am grateful for all those who have and continue to enrich my life.
Appendix: The Great Tradition illustrated by the Table of Contents of the Basket of Tolerance
This is a good overview of the broader Dharma lineage I’ve engaged with.
I know the biographical narrative is not a key part of these notes, but I'd certainly be interested to read about the shift from Penn Engineering to living in community with Adi Da circa 1995. Lots of assumptions to make here based on other folks' stories, but I'm sure the details here are more interesting.
Extraordinary, thank you!